“The Importance of Playing the Right Game”
Effort, Discipline, Habits These three seem to cut it all. That’s why we often repeat that if we want it enough, we can achieve anything. But if, despite effort, hard work, and development, we can’t achieve what we want, the reason may be that we’re playing the wrong game.
We all have unique tendencies: some are attracted to stability, others to spontaneity; one listens attentively, another energetically leads the team. These traits may also have their roots in genetics, although, as Gabor Mate writes, “genes may create a predisposition, but not a definite prerequisite.” This means that our nature sets the framework, but the choice is still in our hands. The choice of where and how to use our strengths.
Even great habits don’t work when we try to form them in the wrong environment. Success is not about effort alone; it depends on how well the goal and path align with human nature. The same habit – waking up early in the morning, or working concentratedly – is natural for one, but a difficult task for another. The difference is determined by personality characteristics and their correspondence to the habit.
This is also very important in a career. A good leader is not universal in all roles. A good leader is someone who finds a game that suits his natural talents. Someone succeeds in organizing processes and creating systems, while someone else succeeds in innovation and generating ideas. In successful teams, these differences come together, but at the beginning, each person must see where he has a natural advantage.
It can be said that in reality, often we are not bad players. We are just trying to play a game that does not suit our nature. That is why, before we start thinking about forming habits and pursuing their development in a disciplined manner, it is important to assess whether we are doing this in an environment where unique abilities will be fully utilized. If the answer is yes, then the habit will no longer be a resistance; it will become a natural tool that requires no effort, but only direction.
